14 Signs You’re Not Ready For A Real Relationship


It’s probably safe to say that deep inside everyone yearns to be loved by someone. We want to feel safe, appreciated, and cared for. But sometimes we fall in love for the wrong reasons and when things fall apart, we wonder why nothing ever works out with anyone.

If you think you can relate, perhaps it’s time for you take a step back and ponder. Here are 14 signs you’re not ready for a real relationship.


1. You love the idea of being in love

You just want to be in love and tend to fall for anyone who comes along, even if they aren’t exactly your type. You develop feelings for someone too quickly and always rush into things.

“Love when you’re ready, not when you’re alone.”

2. You think a relationship is everything

You would sacrifice all your time, individuality, family and friends just to be in a relationship. You don’t mind putting your own interests aside just to keep someone interested in you.

3. You’re emotionally unavailable

You’re emotionally closed off and incapable of being vulnerable with anyone. You would rather have a fake “relationship” than share your biggest fears, hopes, and dreams.

“WHen God knows you’re ready for the responsibility of commitment, He’ll reveal the right person under the right circumstances.”

4. You want to be rescued

You think that all your problems will be solved once you find someone. You only feel confident enough to pursue your goals when you have a partner.


5. You’re only happy when you have someone

You feel restless and uneasy when you’re single. You feel completely empty and unimportant. You depend on someone else to make you feel happy.

6. You think you can change your partner

You just want to have someone in your life and believe that people can always change if they love you enough or care about you.

“If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from others.”

7. You only go for superficial qualities

You look for a partner who is successful, rich, good-looking or beautiful. In other words, what is outside is more important to you than a person’s actual character.

8. You spend more time looking for love than nurturing yourself

You spend hours on dating sites and apps than your own interests or yourself. You think finding your soulmate is the most important thing in your life.


9. You’re too independent

You are so used to being on alone and doing your own things. You tend to give the wrong impression by highlighting you don’t need anyone to survive in this world.

10. You still carry excess baggage from your past

You can’t stop thinking about the one who got away or you’re still talking to your ex. You still have feelings for them and hope you can get back together.

“If you’re not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship.” — Steve Maraboli

11. You have serious trust issues

You have been hurt before and you have a hard time trusting anyone. You are skeptical when people are nice to you. Instead of appreciating their efforts, you question their motives.

12. You feel pressured

All your friends are married or in a relationship and you feel left behind. You feel like you need to catch up in order to fit in.


13. You can’t be your true, authentic self

You find it extremely difficult to be yourself with anyone. You put up a facade and only show a gist of who you really are, fearing that they might not like what they see.

14. You’re not happy in life

You think your life is a mess and you feel lost. You believe that you’re nothing but a failure and you can’t seem to figure out what you should do to have a happier life.

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