“Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.”
We grumble when the queue is long. We whine when it’s too hot. We get upset when service is slow. We make a fuss about work-related stuff.
In a nutshell, we consciously (or unconsciously) complain a lot and even allow it to become a daily habit. Unfortunately, complaining will only make you feel better for a short period of time and it’s really not worth the effort. Life can be more fulfilling and peaceful when you complain less.
Here are 8 methods on how to stop complaining and enjoy your life more.
Ask yourself what you get from complaining
What is the purpose of it? Yes, sometimes you just need to let off some steam, but will complaining actually help you?
Unless the situation is completely unacceptable, try to take a moment to assess whether or not it deserves your energy and effort. Always reflect before you start complaining.
If you can’t change it, move on
When you cannot control certain things, the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept the situation and simply let it go.
Don’t waste your time feeling frustrated about something you can’t change. If there’s a solution, then focus on that instead of dwelling on the problem.
Learn to adapt
Some unforeseen circumstances cannot be avoided. Try to be more flexible and make the most out of a negative situation.
If it’s too hot, go for a swim and treat yourself to an ice-cream. If your flight is delayed, grab a book or get in touch with a loved one. You can control how you react!
Avoid starting a conversation with a complaint
Sometimes you just want to share your frustrations and be heard, but it can become a habit if you don’t watch what you say.
Stop yourself before you vent and try to change the topic. Think of something positive to say.
Find positive ways to vent your frustrations
Go for a jog or a hike. Practice meditation. Listen to soothing music. Go for a drive. Catch up with your old friends.
There’s a lot you can do besides complaining. Find an alternative that works for you and resist your urge to vent.
Be less judgmental
When you often judge people, you are more likely to voice your complaints. The more you complain, the grumpier you become.
If you want to be a happier person, learn to let go and give people a chance before you lash out. Everyone makes mistakes and deserves a break sometimes.
Track how often you complain
The number of times you complain about the smallest things might surprise you.
Once you are aware of how often you complain (and what you usually complain about), you will realize how much time and energy you waste on complaining alone.
Stop entertaining other complaints
Your BFF might call you to complain about certain things. As a good friend, you may feel like it’s your duty to agree or get all worked up too.
Instead of entertaining their complaints or making the situation worse, just listen or try to say something positive.
“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” Eckhart Tolle