It’s not impossible to get what you want in life. All you need is a little bit of confidence to get you started. Once you can master that, you will become unstoppable. Here are 8 things to stop doing if you want to be more confident:
1) Asking others for approval
You don’t need permission to do what’s best for you. You can listen to what other people have to say but at the end of the day, you need to trust your gut and follow your heart. Learn to be comfortable with making your own decisions without having the need to ask people first. The more you ask, the more dependent you will be. Take charge of your life and stop giving your power away.
2) Blaming people or situations for your own problems
You need to take responsibility for your actions and stop playing the victim even when things are not within your control. Self-pity will not help you grow. You are the captain of your ship and your life is a result of the choices you make. You control your destiny and what you say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to, not other people.
3) Not embracing challenges
Be open to new experiences and don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone. Take risks and trust that the universe will conspire in helping you to achieve your goals. Your life will never change if you keep playing it safe and don’t go after what you really want because of fear. The only way you can grow is to put yourself out there and push your limits.
4) Constantly second-guessing yourself
You will never discover your true potential or capabilities if you second-guess yourself all the time. Trust in the decisions you make and stop worrying about it. Even if things don’t work out the way you want it to, you still need to have faith in yourself and know that you made your choices for the right reasons.
5) Bringing people down to boost your self-esteem
You have to be comfortable in your own skin and stop belittling others just to feel better about yourself. Bringing people down will only make you feel good for a while so you need to work on your self-esteem if you want to be confident. Start looking in the mirror and like what you see. Be proud of who you are and embrace your flaws.
6) Worrying about what people think of you
Stop hiding your flaws and be yourself. No one is perfect. People will always have something to say about you anyway, so let them be. Learn to turn a deaf ear to gossips. Just mind your own business and focus on yourself. Do what makes you happy or what you think is right. Go after what you want and ignore all the noise.
7) Giving up on your dreams
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for going after what you are passionate about, no matter how crazy it may be. Don’t give up on your goals just because people can’t understand it. Make things happen and bulldoze your way through no matter how many obstacles come your way. Don’t let a few roadblocks get in between you and your dreams.
8) Putting things on hold
Stop procrastinating and wishing for a different life. If you keep putting things on hold, you will always be a spectator. Instead of watching your life go by, do something about it. Anything. You don’t have to start big. Just take it one step at a time and try to do something productive each day to get closer to your goals.