Do you sometimes feel like doormat and constantly asking how to not let people walk all over you? Are you “too nice?”

Some people take the phrase ‘nice guys finish last’ to heart, but the Dalai Lama once said that we should be kind whenever possible (and it’s always possible). There is absolutely nothing wrong with being human. It enables you to sleep with a clear conscience and if you believe in karma, what goes around will eventually come around.

However, if you often allow people to take you for granted, then it’s time to re-evaluate yourself.

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8 ways on how to stop letting people walk all over you.

  1. Value yourself more
  2. Stop comparing yourself to others
  3. Know what you want
  4. Learn the art of saying ‘no’
  5. Don’t ever settle for less than you deserve
  6. Be selfish
  7. Stop caring about what people think
  8. Speak up

1. Value yourself more

This is the most important step of all. If you have a low sense of self-worth, you will tend to blindly tolerate anything that comes your way.

There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even jump puddles for you. Click To Tweet

Don’t confuse it with patience or loyalty. There are toxic signs even in relationships that screams out danger. Love yourself to the point where you are able to reject anything or anyone unworthy of your time, energy and attention.


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2. Stop comparing yourself to others

Constant comparison will only lower your self-esteem. It’s like a disease that will end up making you feel inadequate.

The grass is not always greener on the other side. Just be more grateful for what you have and be proud of your own accomplishments, no matter how small you think they are.


3. Know what you want

What are your values? What do you look for in a partner? Be clear about what you really want.

The hardest part about walking away from someone is the part when you realize that, no matter how slowly you go, they will never run after you. Click To Tweet

The more specific, the better. Being clueless will not help you tell the difference between what’s good and what’s bad for you. Once you accomplish this step, it will be easier for you to make smarter choices that would benefit you in the long run.

A great way for you to identify the things you want in life is by writing them down in a goal-planning journal. It clears your mind; emptying the clutters to allow room for you to start thinking big in life.   


4. Learn the art of saying ‘no’

Sometimes, you just have to put your foot down. Don’t be a people-pleaser and stop being fake.

The world will not end if you don’t work late every single day. You don’t have to force yourself to help others when you can’t afford it. Whatever it is that makes you feel uncomfortable, just say ‘no’ and you will thank yourself later.


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5. Don’t ever settle for less than you deserve

Whether it’s work or a relationship, never settle.

Respect yourself enough to say 'I deserve peace' and walk away from people or things that prevent you from attaining it. Click To Tweet

You deserve to be treated with respect and you have the right to be happy. Don’t let your fears get the best of you. Losing something unworthy is better than suffering. Choose what’s best for you, not others.


6. Be selfish

Put yourself first once in a while and do the things that make you smile.

Listen to your favorite songs. Read a good book. Travel. You can’t spend your entire life worrying about other people. You need to take care of your own needs too.


7. Stop caring about what people think

Your happiness is a lot more valuable. Stay true to yourself and what you believe in.

You don’t need anyone’s approval to be who you are or want to be. It doesn’t matter if others can’t relate to your point of view. Don’t let people alter your goals, needs and desires.


8. Speak up

Be honest about how you feel.

If your workload is taking a toll on you, tell your boss about it. If someone you’re dating did something that upset you, be open about it. Keeping things bottled up will only make things worse. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind.

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her. Click To Tweet

Becoming the best version of yourself is not impossible. You just need to find the courage to stand up for yourself because if you don’t, then who will?


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Stop Letting People Walk All Over You


  1. Relationships rely on mutual give and take, and consideration for the other person. The modern mantra that is is fine to be selfish and put yourself first erodes communal bonds. It is fine to take breaks and say no to unreasonable requests. In reality no-one wants to clean the toilet or be cleaning someone else’s mess. The key is to SHARE and consider your own needs as equally important to otner people’s needs. Selfish people create slaves not equal partnerships. Don’t overvalue yourself or keep pushing for your way without expecting to be reprimamdedmfor being inconsiderate and selfish. SELFISH is different to caring about yourself. SHARE, CARE and FEEL FREE TO VOICE YOUR OPINION WITHOUT EXPECRING COMPLIANCEMFROM THE PERSONNWHO MIGHT FEEL ISED AND RESENTFUL IF THE WORLD REVOLVED ROUND ME, ME, ME. THINK OF WE ANDMDO CONSIDERMTHE PERSONNBEING AFFECTEDMBY YOUR “SELFISH” DECISION. Take turns and delegate tasks and roles fairly toavoid creating master/servant roles. Other people are just as valuable as yourself.

    • @ Chris may be you are lucky and have not met people who are bottomless pits of selfishness. they push your boundaries, sucks out the smiles and happiness out of the other person and still say ‘you are not good enough’. then it becomes essential to focus on ME ME ME. its self preservation

  2. Im really struggling with this, my friend walks all over me all the time. We got in an agruement because she didnt want me being friends with someone she was once friends with and doesnt like, so I told her that I felt like I should be entitled to my own opinions about the friends I can and cant or should and shouldn’t have, and I put it as nicely as possible, saying I wouldnt be putting anyone first, because their both my friends. She replied okay, then later posted on social media, that everyone in our school is fake… and I know it was pointed at me, because we are both new there, and are technically only friends with eachother. I love her as a friend, but this isnt even half of the times she has walked all over me.

  3. Walk away from the relationship. You will find a friend who values who you are as a person, not someone who judges your actions & dictates to you which people to make friends with.


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