You may have heard the phrase “You attract what you are” but have you fully considered what it means? Like most people, you probably tend to focus more on what you want and when nothing seems to be going right, you wonder why you keep going through the same things in life.
Unfortunately, knowing what you want is not enough. You need to discover what lies within in order to attract positive results. Here’s why you attract what you are and not what you want:
1) You don’t really try to look within yourself
It’s okay not to be perfect but you need to stop letting what you are do more harm than good. Being a good person is not enough. Loving yourself is not enough. Having values is not enough. You attract not only what you are but also what you fear, what you feel, and what’s on your mind. If you’re afraid of rejection, you might let people walk all over you. If you’re not happy with your life or who you are, you might settle for less than you deserve. If you think you think it’s too difficult to make your dreams come true, you might never reach your destination.
2) You don’t learn from your past mistakes
You see the same patterns, but you repeat them anyway. If you want good things to happen, you can’t let your fears, feelings, thoughts, and emotions control you. You have to acknowledge your weaknesses and stop blaming your circumstances or others for your disappointments. No one forced you to continue suffering. You make your own choices, happiness, and reality. Find the things about you that aren’t attractive or positive and work on yourself instead of expecting people to understand you. Decipher your patterns if you must. Be honest with yourself and do something about it.
3) You don’t act like you deserve better
The harsh truth is, you do attract what you think you deserve. What you get is in accordance with your unconscious thoughts and how you value yourself. You may have high standards, but you let people take advantage of you anyway. You may believe you deserve better, but at the end of the day, your unconscious mind still allows you to settle with something you consider to be just ‘good enough for now.’ You can’t just look for something better in life if you don’t truly believe you deserve it. The only way you can get what you want is to actually believe that you are worthy of something great.
4) You don’t align your thoughts and feelings with your desires
The only way to attract what you want in life and achieve positive results is to change. You first need to realise why you attract what you are and then make the necessary changes to move forward. Your life will never be different if you don’t change the way you see things, yourself, and your surroundings. You have to develop the emotions, feelings, and thoughts that actually align with your desires. No matter what happens, never let anything or anyone break you. You need to stay strong even if you feel like you’re losing your strength. Focus on the feeling of living the life you’ve always imagined. Visualise the kind of life you dream of and don’t give up.